Erotic Poetry, YOU can do it

Many people out there identify as writers, have cultivated a writing practice, whether thats in a journal that no other eye sees, or in a more public way through sharing your work and writing communities.

If you are someone who is a writer this is for YOU. If you are someone who is NOT a writer, this is also for YOU.

Writing erotic, sexual, or sensual poetry is often something left out of the writing landscape. When I started writing poetry, something that I didn't have words for but felt in my body was how connected i felt to my sensuality through the literary form of poetry. Through its looseness I felt free to be freaky and to be erotic, although i did not consider myself an erotic writer at the time. In general, there is taboo in writing about anything sexual, whether that's in the poetry genre or in fiction, etc. Many open mic nights, or community spaces that promote literature and writers, don't always accept and celebrate people showing up as erotic beings and therefore people showing up with writing that reflects their erotic landscape and experiences.

I recently connected with an amazing person who co hosts and organizes a monthly naughty BIPOC open mic night, that includes performers in writing, music, and various art forms! I've been a few times now and it is so beautiful, to see new performers sharing their work in front of everyone, and to see some more seasoned writers and performers, coming back again and again for the experience of community in their sharing. If you're curious about this, check out their insta page, you wont regret it.

Now, I feel like I don't need to mention the powers of writing, and how amazing it can be for expression, regulation, discharging emotions, workshopping ideas, gaining creativity and or clarity, just to name a few. But being able to write something erotic, now that feeds our bodies and souls in another way. It can and usually for me does happen to involve the above mentioned benefits, and what also gets contributed is a mirror into maybe what i am longing for or what i have savored in a dynamic, experience, or moment.

SO why write a sexy erotic poem?

It can be time consuming, energetically draining, and or sometimes not possible to always plan sexual time and exchanges with other bodies, but writing, now that is an alternative way to access your thoughts, desires, and curiosities while also not necessarily engaging with another body!

1. You can use writing erotic sexy poetry as a way to harness different parts of yourself or alter egos that maybe you don't typically let come out in the day to day.

2. Use your poetic writings as a way to explore your fantasies in a more sensual way. For instance i'm a big supporter of writing lists for what i want to explore, what im a No for and what feels like a maybe for the future. BUT when writing a larger story or poem, more details into the scene or the unfolding of how something may play out can get explored in a deeper way.

3. You can develop more creative language for describing a scene, body parts, your body, and or sensations that you may feel or want to feel in the future. We all have our ways of speaking that we are used to and comfortable with, and through writing we are able to expand the words we use, and try on different words.

4. You can use writing erotic poetry as a way to develop a deeper connection with noticing patterns or moments that stand out to you in your experiences.

5. You can use this practice as a way just to have fun and be silly, not all writing needs to be serious.. Maybe in your story a mermaid finds her way to a swimming hole and then gets her hole explored you know?

6. Can help cultivate more access to your authentic voice, and therefore help you in become better at sexting and or dirty talk when you are with another person.

7. Writing erotic poetry can help us get better at being bad at things, or at investigating our inherent perfectionism that has a way of creeping into our daily lives. Not all erotic poetry that you write needs to be shared with another soul, you can write something in your journal that never gets read aloud, or a poem that you maybe only read to yourself in the mirror and not to another human. By writing we can develop the practice of just seeing what comes out, without having to necessarily make it sound beautiful or make it digestible.

Title: Ice

Poem Written in 2020

Written by: Tamar Simone Weir

We sat by the river that’s never been blue 

and if you grew up here you’d know its always been just brown. 

heat melts ice quick! 

Ill eat ice

look at ice

and always

I’ll think of you now 

Maybe like when you rubbed your lips around

worn water bottle

ice cube 

tracing gently on my body 

Shine on the blessings 

Light on my goosebumps 

Feather in my pussy like

Who put it there?

If you need some inspiration, reading erotic poetry, can be a great place to start. A few poems that I've read lately and have my body in goosebumps are:

-Adrienne Maree Browns "Be Careful I am Fertile"

-Ellen Bass's " Basket of Figs"

-Audre Lorde's "Recreation"