Can a cucumber be your new favorite dildo?
Written by: Tamar Simone Weir
After eating a fresh salad one night, I was reflecting on the access to sexual toys, sexual care, and sexual tools. Browsing the internet, and all these beautiful sites of sexual toys, I found myself wanting all of them, wanting to buy them all and explore what type of pleasure comes. And as someone who is dedicated to sexual exploration for myself, and for the education of others, I do choose and have the privilege to afford to buy these toys. But not all folks have that same access, many people with marginalized identities especially, do not have access to toys, and sexual exploration in that way.
Vibrators can cost between $20-300 normally, and if you want good quality toys, you will be looking at $200-300 for one toy, that maybe at the end of trying it, you realize it's cool, but not for you. Or maybe you hate it, or at best, maybe you fall in love and it becomes your new friend every night before bed....So when deciding to commit to a vibrator it can be challenging to decide, when you may end up not feeling satisfied with your purchase, and unless you have hundreds of hundreds of dollars, you most likely wont be buying these new vibrators.
The next evening, when my new milk frother arrived, to finally make homemade lattes, I looked at the advertised 3 speed function, chargeable, and with a very intense power, and immediately thought about if this new kitchen item could be used as a vibrator, or somehow be utilized for pleasure outside of lattes....
And as of now, I have not tried using this new kitchen toy in a sexual way, but what I will say is that, we can be creative with tools, with items, and with our bodies, as long as we keep in mind some key factors.
When using fruit or veggies, you always want to make sure that they are disinfected and washed, and that they are organic, because at the end of the day you want to have peace of mind that whatever is going in or on you, is clean and going to make you feel good right??? And in general, when you buy a high quality vibrator, they will ensure that it is made with good materials, body safe silicone or safe textures. But of course, when playing around with veggies, you don't necessarily have that certainty, so its always important to wash!! Also, the best way to ensure that you are being safe, even if a penis is not being inserted, is by putting a condom on the veggies you are using, in this way you can make sure that the bacteria is not entering into your genitalia.
Another key element when searching for alternative toys for play, is making sure that the item you choose is smooth, if you rub it on the skin of your hand and it feels uncomfortable, you probably wouldn't want that inside of you.
And in terms of which vegetable to use, a few that are good options in terms of the shape are bananas, eggplants, carrots, and cucumbers! But of course, experiment with what feels good for you, and follow your curiosities. Pleasure looks and feels different for every person, for some that may be choosing one vegetable over another, for others it may be choosing a fruit to rub on their body and use sensually as external play. Whatever variation is beautiful. The journey for pleasure is a continuous exploration, that takes curiosity, willingness, and time. Wether or not you are interested in trying a cucumber as your next sexual fantasy, or remain happy with your vibrator at home and eating cucumbers only in salads, the choice to see what your personal preferences and desires are, are in your hands.
Certainly, there is no need to always go after the next best vibrator, or sex toy, if you don't have the financial access and privilege, and even if you are someone who loves to buy all the new toys, there is something special about exploring something new, something less traditional, and something sexy.
So next time you're at the market, buying your fresh produce for the week, and a cucumber catches your eye or some other item, maybe there is a desire there to explore!
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